I just read an online article that attempted to explain the difference between “lay” vs “lie.” It actually confused me more, and I had to visit grammar girl’s blog just to double-check myself:
Grammar girl has a good explanation, but I decided to provide my own helpful hint, just for fun and to show what a nerd I am.
“lay” vs “lie.”
Whenever I don’t know which to use, I recite the following.
“I lay me down” = “I lie down”
Hopefully, you’re familiar with the bedtime prayer, “Now I lay me down to sleep, I pray the Lord my soul to keep…” If not, Google it. J It’s a good mnemonic device for the above purpose.
Short and sweet explanation: “lay” has to have an object, in this case “me.” I can’t “lay down” (at least not while using the word properly), because I need to say what I’m laying down (myself, a book, etc.). Neither can I “lie me” down, because lie doesn’t need an object. See how silly it sounds?
This only applies to present tense, however, so have the following triplets memorized. (They represent present / past / past participle, but you don’t need to know that yet).
Lay / laid / laid
Lie / lay / lain
Don’t try to over-think it, just learn the pattern of the three that go together. These should be easy for anyone who’s had to memorize conjugation charts while studying a foreign language.
When you’re confused, first use the mnemonic to decide which one is correct. Once you’ve done that, match that word to whichever triplet has it at the beginning. Once you’ve got the triplet firmly in mind, then consider your tense. For present tense, use the first of the triplet, for past tense, use the second, and for past perfect, use the third.
Lay: Today, I lay the book down. Yesterday, I laid it down. Every night, I have laid it down.
Lie: Today I lie down [because I’m tired]. Yesterday, I lay down [because my head hurt]. Every night, I have lain in bed with insomnia.
And if anybody ever tells you any different, well…that’s just a lie.
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